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In my opinion, I have it all too often.
I hate it when one of my adoptee friends have come out of their adoption fog, gone through an adoption search, found their personal Holy Grail- their very own long lost mother- only to have her send that adoptee away, denied. Too many of my friends, too many adoptees that I know, suffer the same fate; their found birthmother wanted nothing to do with them.
They all ask why? I hate these moments in conversation. They are usually reserved for a face to face conversations, often during the Adoptee Right Demonstration time. The talk gets deep, people open up as we can look each other in the eyes. We all see the same sort of pain reflected in the faces across the way.
It is a safe place, but I hate that we are here. I hate to hear the sadness and pain in their voices. I hate it with every ounce of my being.
Try as much as I do not to judge this behavior, try as hard as I can to understand these mothers: I hate hearing it, I hate having it. I hate that it is. But secondary adoptee rejection is a very real reality in adoption reunions.
As much as I want to believe that every mother would feel like I do, should feel like I do and rejoice upon reunion with their adopted child; I know that not to be the case. We all have a different skill set and for whatever reason, in that, I have been fortunate.
Why Some Birthmothers Slam the Reunion Door I have heard many different scenarios that all end up the same way; the adoptee is rejected again.
I have chosen to use the words rejected and abandoned here because that is what my friends feel. The sad thing is that many of the adoptees that have searched to be rejected already have processed the information regarding their surrender and have a great capacity for understanding and forgiveness.
No one is trying to find their birthmothers to throw stones or cast blame, yet on that emotional level we have to acknowledge that the adoptee can feel rejected by the act of adoption placement whether voluntary or forced.
There is an innocence there in this need to reconnect. It is pure feeling. Maybe she has completely refused to even admit that the person standing on her steps could have been her baby. Maybe she starts the reunion off with a positive feel, but later on just starts to unravel in some way.
Some mothers seem to seriously lose it and unleash some confusing anger on the adoptee before the rejection. Some mothers just disappear quietly into the night. As wonderful and exhilarating as that roller coaster can be, it also has very deep dips and scary turns. For anyone unprepared for these side effects, it can be terrifying.
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